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I am not a psychiatrist nor do I have a degree in psychology but I have dated a couple of frogs in my lifetime. The experiences alone give me enough credibility to speak on this subject. The topic of love and relationships, especially dating, can sometimes leave a sour taste in your mouth. However, with the right mindset you can avoid the drama and find true happiness if you give yourself the chance.
All of us at one time or another have met someone who may have been the perfect match for us except that “one thing”. Maybe they didn’t pass the attractive meter or their approach was not swoon worthy. For whatever reason, you decided that they were a frog and pursuing them or going out on a date was out of the question. But what if that frog was actually your blessing in disguise.
A few years ago, a dear friend of mine met a man who was not the type of man she was use to dating. He did not possess the physical features that normally caught her eye and in her opinion, they had very little in common. She was quite skeptical about dating him, however this particular gentleman was persistent and he pursued her until he finally got a yes.
When my friend came to me asking for advice, I told her to take a chance. I asked her what did she have to lose by going out on a date. She would never learn what they had in common if all she had to go by were the things she observed on the surface. She was also skeptical because he was not physically her type. This is actually common for a lot of people.
Do You Have A Type?
There is nothing wrong with having a type. In fact, most people have a type that normally attracts their eye. The problem comes in when you become so fixated on just that type that you’re not willing to consider others. In reality this type of thinking can limit possibilities of meeting good people and leave you with too many unknowns.
“I don’t have a type. But one thing I can say from my dating experience is that a physical attraction will only take you so far. So you definitely have to have a strong intellectual connection as well”. ~Jesse Metcalfe
Fortunately, after our long pep talk my friend did decide to go on that date. That was over a decade ago. Turns out her frog was really a prince. They married less than six months after meeting and have been a solid team ever since. Imagine what she would have missed out on if she had let those minor things sway her into not giving him a chance. How many opportunities have you passed up because you were too busy focusing on physical attraction alone?
False Realities
The problem is the world has given us false realities of what love, dating and relationships should be like. We have these ideals that everyone we meet are supposed to be built like Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson or Jason Momoa; or have bodies like Kim Kardashian or Beyonce. In reality, without the money and fame, they’re just as regular as the next person. Is the physical attraction so important that you would be willing to overlook the best qualities in a person? You will never know what the frog has to offer if you’re constantly discounting their valuable parts.
My advice to you is to give the frogs a chance. Go out on a date and get to know them. Laugh at their corny jokes. Listen to them with an open mind. Search for their beauty not just with your eyes alone. Remember teeth can be fixed, looks can be enhanced, styles can be altered but a flawed personality and a bad attitude more than stinks. Stop discounting the person who may be all of your dreams come true. If you go into anything with your mind set to focus on the negatives you will always come up short.
Are You Ready For A Relationship
I have been thinking the exact thing the other day about false reality. In reality there is nothing like Mr or Miss perfect and yes a frog can be a prince too. Loved this post!
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I love this post is awesome – we should be giving the frogs a chance, you never know 🙂
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I love this post! I completely agree with you. Society has this false idea that we’re all suppose to look “perfect” and that sometimes makes or breaks a relationship. The frog turned out to be a prince, so you should never judge a book by its cover.
-Ashley
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This post is so lovely ♥ it is so important to have that ‘other’ level connection – I went on so many dates a couple of years ago, with people that were decent physically but such uninteresting or just plain crazy on other levels! x
I appreciate this post so much. Yes, I have a ‘type’ but my type was getting me nowhere but headaches when it was all said and done. You’re right…give the ‘frog’ a chance. After all, my husband is not what I would consider to be “my type.”
I love this! I actually married my first real crush- but we didn’t date when I had a crush on him- it wasn’t until 5 years later that we got together. In between that I went for a couple of princes who turned out to be giant turds. Nice to look at- NOT nice to be with!
How sweet. I love to hear these kind of love stories. And yes, some of the princes turn out to be toads full of warts. lol
Love your message – and tbh, sometimes it’s the seemingly most ‘unlikely’ people that grow on you 💛😊
Good advice! I would like to add that when I was dating, even when dating frogs, I still enjoyed the getting to know them and whatever activity we did. So I gave every frog a chance, until I found a frog that turned out to be my prince! He was slower than your friend’s frog, so it took us nine months before we got married! 😀
You got your “happily ever after” and that’s all that matters. Thanks for sharing.