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“Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” ~Song of Solomon 8:4
Are you ready for a relationship? We’ve all heard the ageless old cliche when the time is right you’ll know. But how does a person really know when the time is right? One way to know if you’re ready for a relationship is when you can answer the question without a struggle. When you can say yes without doubts or any if, and’s or buts, then you can know that its time.
Here’s some things you should consider to help determine if you’re ready to be in a relationship:
Are You At Peace With Being Alone?
One of the worst times for a person to start a new relationship is when they are lonely. This is because it is so easy to fulfill the lonely spirit. Because it’s easy to fulfill, some people settle for any companion for the sake of not being alone. The bad thing about this is that when the physical aspect of the relationship is fulfilled, oftentimes the valuable parts of you remain lonely. This is because the person you settled for doesn’t fulfill you emotionally or mentally. This is why it’s important that you first be at peace with being alone. Embrace your singleness–it’s a good thing.
Are You Healed From Past Hurts & Disappointments?
Let’s face it. Most of us have been hurt by a relationship that didn’t work out. Maybe it was a bad break up or you were forced to walk away from someone you were still in love with. For some people its losing a spouse through separation or divorce. No matter the reason, those past hurts and pains can cripple a future relationship if you don’t allow yourself time to go through the healing process. During the process be honest with yourself about the hurts. Take responsibility for your own actions throughout the relationship, even if it was simply allowing someone to treat you bad. Whatever you do, do not move forward until you have forgiven the other person and forgiven yourself. Forgiveness is a sign of true healing.
Are You Relationship Material?
The first thing most people do when they embark on a new relationship is set expectations of what they want in a partner. While there is nothing wrong with this, its not the only place we should put our focus. The first place you should put your focus is on you. Are you ready to be the partner to the person you are setting expectations for. Are you ready to compromise, accept their flaws and put in the time and effort the same way in which you have set the expectations for them to give those things to you. Or are you selfishly focused on what you want and not on what you intend to give in turn. Are YOU ready?
“Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready. ~Song of Solomon” 3:5
It is so important not to awaken love until the time is right. No one likes to wait, however there is a blessing in waiting if you can be patient. Think about how many people rush into a relationship for the wrong reasons. This is why so many people end up heartbroken and repeating the same cycle of broken relationships. No one wants to awaken love and to not have it fulfilled. After all, falling in love is the easiest thing to do, but falling out of love is a problem.
Contrary to what others may have told you, you’re not going to die surrounded by fifty cats, you’re not going to lose your groove (that you can’t get back with a little work) and you’re not going to miss out on your husband or wife. Who is meant for you will be for you. When the time is right, you’ll move forward and that special person will be aligned waiting for you. The key is that you be ready–be at peace, be healed and be ready to give of you selflessly.
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