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Perhaps it’s the half-smile he gives that shows a little bit of teeth when he’s amused. Maybe it’s the timber of his voice when he talks about the things he’s passionate about. Or maybe its the love and loyalty he shows for his friends and family. Whatever it is, knowing I am now privy to those same things gives my heart such joy.
“Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it”. ~Thomas Fuller
Over the last few weeks, I’ve listened to so many people speak and give discouraging thoughts about long distance relationships. I got so caught up in the negativity that I started to doubt and question whether he was truly committed to building this relationship as I am. I even let those doubts spill over into our communication. Where I should have been discussing my thoughts and feelings with him, I became emotional and confrontational. Even though he was upset with me, after some time we were able to get pass that hurdle. Honestly, I wasn’t sure we would. Now I’m wondering if this is something that happens a lot with new relationships. You have so many emotions hitting you at one time and it just becomes overwhelming.
What that moment taught me was, you cannot allow other people’s opinion of a situation be the final verdict. No relationship, distance or close, will stand without two people who are willing to put in the work. There are going to be some challenges but you must take things one day at a time.
The other thing I learned is that you can’t rush and get too far ahead. Sometimes the eagerness to make it happen will cause you to falter. You can miss out on some important things about one another by rushing. You can also lose focus of the other person simply because you’re thinking only of your own wants and needs.
Building takes time and patience. Repeat that if you need to. Anything truly worth having is worth the time and work it takes to solidify and build a strong foundation. And you must trust and have faith that things are going to be okay. Don’t be anxious. I love how scripture puts it in Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own”.
“ For anything worth having one must pay the price; and the price is always work, patience, love, self-sacrifice.” ~ John Burroughs
- Has emotions ever played a factor in the outcome of a relationship you’ve been in?
- What do you think are the most important ingredients in building a relationship?
Continue to follow my “Journey to Love” series as I grow and build with the one that happened “all of a sudden”. Go back and read “The Beginning” & “Love at First Sight” to see how this journey began.
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